[Ebook] ↠ Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender, and Parenting in America Author Nefertiti Austin – Diclofenac16.us

Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender, and Parenting in AmericaIn America, Mother WhiteThat S What Nefertiti, A Single African American Woman, Discovered When She Decided She Wanted To Adopt A Black Baby Boy Out Of The Foster Care System Eager To Finally Join The Motherhood Ranks, Nefertiti Was Shocked When People Started Asking Her Why She Wanted To Adopt A Crack Baby Or Said That She Would Never Be Able To Raise A Black Son On Her Own She Realized That American Society Saw Motherhood Through A White Lens, And That There Would Be No Easy Understanding Or Acceptance Of The Kind Of Family She Hoped To BuildMotherhood So White Is The Story Of Nefertiti S Fight To Create The Family She Always Knew She Was Meant To Have And The Story Of Motherhood That All American Families Need Now In This Unflinching Account Of Her Parenting Journey, Nefertiti Examines The History Of Adoption In The African American Community, Faces Off Against Stereotypes Of Single, Black Motherhood, And Confronts The Reality Of Raising Children Of Color In Racially Charged, Modern Day AmericaHonest, Vulnerable, And Uplifting, Motherhood So White Reveals What Nefertiti Knew All Along That The Only Requirement For A Successful Family Is One Raised With Love

[Ebook] ↠ Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender, and Parenting in America Author Nefertiti Austin – Diclofenac16.us
  • Hardcover
  • 304 pages
  • Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender, and Parenting in America
  • Nefertiti Austin
  • English
  • 04 October 2018
  • 1492679011

    10 thoughts on “[Ebook] ↠ Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender, and Parenting in America Author Nefertiti Austin – Diclofenac16.us


  1. says:

    Giveaway win


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    I received a DIGITAL ADVANCE READER S COPY of this book from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.I recently read a tweet that identified white privilege as everyone learning to empathize and cater to whiteness Unfortunately, we live in a society that does just that we teach people to empathize and cater to whiteness in fairytales think Goldilocks , in religion white Jesus , and even in parenting As a mother of two, I have seen the lack of inclusivity in books on expecting, parenting, I received a DIGITAL ADVANCE READER S COPY of this book from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.I recently read a tweet that identified white privilege as everyone learning to empathize and cater to whiteness Unfortunately, we live in a society that does just that we teach people to empathize and cater to whiteness in fairytales think Goldilocks , in religion white Jesus , and even in parenting As a mother of two, I have seen the lack of inclusivity in books on expecting, parenting, and living In a realm that often discredits or neglects the stories of Blacks, let alone Black women, in walks Nefertiti Austin and Motherhood So White The book enters as a memoir on Austin s experience adopting as a single Black woman, and narrates the experience of parenting.I was immediately drawn into Austin s experience as she narrates it as a mother after the devastating death of Trayvon Martin I, too, found myself rocked by the murder of this young man as I realized that he could have been my son Beginning her story here was a perfect hook it grabbed me with the familiarity of the story and it made me go back to the intersectionality among myself, Sabrina Fulton, and Nefertiti Austin we are Black mothers of Black boys.Austin narrates a tale sharing her longing for motherhood She shares the celebrations and the critiques of her choice to become a mother She examines her family dynamics and how they factored into her decision Austin candidly shares the choices she has had to make to be intentional in raising a Black boy Among her decisions are who is family, who gets a say, what s in a name, and when and how to explain adoption Austin does what any mother has to do she makes decisions to help her child thrive While she includes social context, Austin shows that although parenting is always an affair of the heart, there are experiences unique to race She frames the narrative so that it is not just diverse but inclusive The book is a good read It is both informational and relatable


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    A book that will be a useful resource for Black women considering adoption. Wasn t it Toni Morrison who said, if you can t find the book you want to read, it s your responsibility to write it Well that is exactly what Nefertiti Austin has done Wanting to be a mother, Nefertiti found scant resources and texts available centered around Black women adopting Black children So this book details her journey to motherhood through adoption and discovery that white women are normalized and un A book that will be a useful resource for Black women considering adoption. Wasn t it Toni Morrison who said, if you can t find the book you want to read, it s your responsibility to write it Well that is exactly what Nefertiti Austin has done Wanting to be a mother, Nefertiti found scant resources and texts available centered around Black women adopting Black children So this book details her journey to motherhood through adoption and discovery that white women are normalized and universalized around motherhood It is a bit of surprise that Nefertiti was so taken aback by this It s no secret that white people occupy the default position in this society, so for her to be surprised and shocked that this also extends to motherhood is disconcerting Despite the long history of relationships between Black mammies, nannies, housekeepers, and caregivers for white children, our consistent erasure in parenting literature confirmed that mother in America would always be read as white She details her journey here to adopting a black boy She is to be commended for that and often writes in such a way that says, I should be celebrated , though I m not sure if that s intentional In any event, there is now, by her hand a text that will help walk others through the adoption process, while providing support and answers to a myriad of questions While Black adoption was common in my community, I was an outlier for wanting to adopt a child I did not know I was also an outlier among whites for defying stereotypes around single, Black motherhood, but none of this was in writing Well now thanks to Nefertiti Austin there is something in writing and hopefully this will lead to others making the choice of adoption and providing a loving home to children, who are all deserving of such an opportunity Thank you to Netgalley and Sourcebooks for an advanced DRC Book drops Sept 24, 2019


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    Laughed, cried, and learned so much from this book So very grateful people like Nefertiti choose to share their stories See full review at


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    I received a DIGITAL Advance Reader Copy of this book from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review From the publisher, as I do not regurgitate the contents or story of books in reviews, I let them do it When Nefertiti Austin, a single African American woman, decided she wanted to adopt a black baby boy out of the foster care system, she was unprepared for the fact that there is no place for black women in the mommy wars Austin set off on her path without the ability to seek guidance f I received a DIGITAL Advance Reader Copy of this book from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review From the publisher, as I do not regurgitate the contents or story of books in reviews, I let them do it When Nefertiti Austin, a single African American woman, decided she wanted to adopt a black baby boy out of the foster care system, she was unprepared for the fact that there is no place for black women in the mommy wars Austin set off on her path without the ability to seek guidance from others who looked like her or shared her experience.She soon realized that she would not only have to navigate scepticism from the adoption community, who deal almost exclusively with white women but surprisingly, from her own family and friends as well Motherhood So White is the story of Nefertiti s fight to create the family she always knew she was meant to have and the story of motherhood that all American families need now In this unflinching account of her parenting journey, Nefertiti examines the history of adoption in the African American community, faces off against stereotypes of single, black motherhood, and confronts the reality of raising children of colour in racially charged, modern day America.The only great thing about chicken pox at age 52 and being a super speed reader is you can easily read and review four books a day..and this was an excellent book to have spent an hour or two or manyon your side with.This was a gritty, shocking read I as a white woman had no idea this was going on in the USA I had heard that in general black babies and infants, and children, and tween agers and teenagers you get the drift are not adopted readily as most people seek out the healthy white infant child that never seems to be found amongst the plethora of mixed race and coloured children in the system I was adopted as well but my parents certainly didn t go through what Nefertiti went through this is an amazing bookcub worthy book you may want to read it twice as I am planning to do as it is so shocking in its content that I am gladly adding it to my book club s roster of fall 2019 reads PUT IT ON YOUR SEPTEMBER 2019 reading list, people


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    Advanced Reading Copies of Motherhood So White by Nefertiti Austin were provided to my library book club by the Book Club Cookbook through their Galley Match Along with receiving copies of the book for all our regular book club members we also had a Skype visit with the author Austin s experience as a single black woman adopting an African American boy inspired her to write her memoir She discovered a dearth of books that spoke to her personal situation, as if motherhood and adoption were whit Advanced Reading Copies of Motherhood So White by Nefertiti Austin were provided to my library book club by the Book Club Cookbook through their Galley Match Along with receiving copies of the book for all our regular book club members we also had a Skype visit with the author Austin s experience as a single black woman adopting an African American boy inspired her to write her memoir She discovered a dearth of books that spoke to her personal situation, as if motherhood and adoption were white only experiences Austin addresses issues of systemic racism and stereotypes, the demands of California s adoption system, and the work and joy of raising a child as a single parent.The book club has immensely enjoyed talking to the authors of our book selections, both because the writers become real and so we can ask questions We learned that Austin s editor said her first draft was too impersonal, her second draft too revealing That makes three drafts on the road to publication Also that she changed names to protect people s privacy.Overall, our readers felt the book was educational and thought provoking and thought Austin was delightful Several readers loved the book, one did not care for it Several people also gained insight into the African American worldview and experience that was new to them


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    When I first saw the title I immediately requested an advanced copy because I realized out of all the books I read that deal with motherhood in any way the experience of being a mother, of not being a mother, of choosing to be childfree, of choosing adoption..etc, non of the ones I read or the ones I am able to find and access as easily are written by Black or Brown women I hope this books gets as hyped as the rest of the motherhood books because it deserves it.This book is about Nefertiti Aus When I first saw the title I immediately requested an advanced copy because I realized out of all the books I read that deal with motherhood in any way the experience of being a mother, of not being a mother, of choosing to be childfree, of choosing adoption..etc, non of the ones I read or the ones I am able to find and access as easily are written by Black or Brown women I hope this books gets as hyped as the rest of the motherhood books because it deserves it.This book is about Nefertiti Austin s journey to being a single mother adopting first a black boy from the foster system and later adopting a little girl There s so much about Nefertiti s story, her experience, her upbringing and her support system that is so different from all the ones I read previously and I can see how important this is as a resource It was interesting and informative Nefertiti explains how when she was going through the process herself she barely found books or resources to fall back on and had to rely on her community and if she did find any it was 1 2 books and they still didn t cover the process she was going through exactly.There is so much to unpick from this book from the stories of single mothers, single black mothers, the foster system, the crack baby stereotypes, the school system, literature and the intersection of being black and a woman and what that entails within the black community The introduction of this book was powerful How can you teach a young kid about racism and police brutality and finding a balance between making him aware but not scaring him too much How can you teach a young kid that wearing your hood is seen as a form of danger or that people will never believe you re as young as you say you are It s scary and I can t image what that is like Black and brown kids are getting taught what prejudice is, what systematic racism and privilege is from a very young age and that s scary but also very very important considering the current political climate.We all view parenting differently or could have different experiences and whether or not you are on board with how certain aspects are being handled or certain points of view, I think reading from different voices is vital I received a free e book copy of this title from NetGalley and the publisher in exchange for an honest review


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    This book was recommended to me after I read All the Sweeter Families Share Their Stories of Adopting from Foster Care by Jean Minton Both books detail the experience of adopting through the U.S Foster system, with a focus on California However, Ms Austin s book is a muchpersonal accounting of not only her journey into motherhood, but her own life story as a Black woman and the experiences that impacted her decision to adopt a Black boy from the foster system.As a white woman, I found This book was recommended to me after I read All the Sweeter Families Share Their Stories of Adopting from Foster Care by Jean Minton Both books detail the experience of adopting through the U.S Foster system, with a focus on California However, Ms Austin s book is a muchpersonal accounting of not only her journey into motherhood, but her own life story as a Black woman and the experiences that impacted her decision to adopt a Black boy from the foster system.As a white woman, I found this book to be so informative and enlightening, as well as heartbreaking I feel for Nefertiti s experiences as a young girl trying to find her way and figure out how she will define herself, as well as her struggles as a new mother looking for resources that can provide the information she seeks and the frustration of not finding much of anything out there that represents her situation I m also extremely impressed by her determination and resourcefulness in building a support network that met her needs and allowed her to be the mother she wanted and knew she would be As the exhausted mother of a toddler, I m in awe.I also really appreciated her inclusion of some short case studies interviews with other single Black women who had adopted children I read this as her practicing what she preached and providing a much needed resource for other women who might be looking for the same resources she had been Now they will be lucky enough to find this gem Important reading for anyone interested in adopting from the foster system, as well as those read white people striving to increase their own knowledge and understanding of Black culture and the impact of racism, implicit bias, prejudice, stereotypes on the decisions and actions Black parents take to provide their children with the best possible life


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    When Nefertiti Austin set out to adopt, she searched for resources for single Black moms of adopted children She wasn t surprised by the dearth of materials But she was surprised when she couldn t even find race neutral resources Based on the total lack of narratives like hers, she sat down to write the memoir resource the world was missing Motherhood So White is such an important book, and it will be crucial to many mothers and children that don t see their experience reflected in media Au When Nefertiti Austin set out to adopt, she searched for resources for single Black moms of adopted children She wasn t surprised by the dearth of materials But she was surprised when she couldn t even find race neutral resources Based on the total lack of narratives like hers, she sat down to write the memoir resource the world was missing Motherhood So White is such an important book, and it will be crucial to many mothers and children that don t see their experience reflected in media Austin struck a great balance of her own experience, research, and examination of how society treats single Black mothers of adopted kids Her story is engaging, eye opening, and definitely worth a read.Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for the ARC in exchange for my honest review


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    So informative Great information if your looking to foster or adopt Loved the realness Like to know an update on authors life now Nice book Thanks to author,publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book While I got the book for free,it had no bearing on the rating I gave it.

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