[KINDLE] ❄ We Are Lost and Found ❧ Helene Dunbar – Diclofenac16.us

We Are Lost and FoundA Poignant, Heartbreaking, And Uplifting Story In The Tradition Of The Perks Of Being A Wallflower About Three Friends Coming Of Age In The Early S As They Struggle To Forge Their Own Paths In The Face Of Fear Of The UnknownMichael Is Content To Live In The Shadow Of His Best Friends, James, An Enigmatic Teen Performance Artist Who Everyone Wants And No One Can Have And Becky, Who Calls Things As She Sees Them, While Doing All She Can To Protect Those She Loves His Brother, Connor, Has Already Been Kicked Out Of The House For Being Gay And Laying Low Seems To Be His Only Chance To Avoid The Same Fate To Pass The Time Before Graduation, Michael Hangs Out At The Echo Where He Can Dance And Forget About His Father S Angry Words, The Pressures Of School, And The Looming Threat Of AIDS, A Disease That Everyone Is Talking About, But No One UnderstandsThen He Meets Gabriel, A Boy Who Actually Sees Him A Boy Who, Unlike Seemingly Everyone Else In New York City, Is Interested In Him And Not James And Michael Has To Decide What He S Willing To Risk To Be Himself

[KINDLE] ❄ We Are Lost and Found ❧ Helene Dunbar – Diclofenac16.us
  • Hardcover
  • 304 pages
  • We Are Lost and Found
  • Helene Dunbar
  • English
  • 18 November 2017
  • 1492681040

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  1. says:

    Utterly gorgeous and emotionally evocative, Helene Dunbar s We Are Lost and Found feels like pages from a person s diary It so effectively and beautifully captures the early 1980s in New York City, what it was like to be a teenager struggling with your sexuality and your desire to be loved and be seen, and the uncertainties and fears of the early days of AIDS.Michael, James, and Becky are best friends While Michael and Becky are still in high school, James is two years older, and is a perfor Utterly gorgeous and emotionally evocative, Helene Dunbar s We Are Lost and Found feels like pages from a person s diary It so effectively and beautifully captures the early 1980s in New York City, what it was like to be a teenager struggling with your sexuality and your desire to be loved and be seen, and the uncertainties and fears of the early days of AIDS.Michael, James, and Becky are best friends While Michael and Becky are still in high school, James is two years older, and is a performance artist James is always the center of attention his ethereal good looks and his magnetic self confidence tend to pull everyone toward him Michael is envious of James knowing who he is Ever since Michael s father threw his older brother Connor out of the house after he came out, Michael wants to do everything he can to stay under the radar, yet at the same time, he s just dying to tell his parents the truth In fact, he wants to tell everyone the truth but at the same time, he s not quite ready to make that leap.The one place Michael feels at home is at The Echo, a gay dance club There he can lose himself in the music, flirt without consequence, and not have to acknowledge all of the anxieties he carries with him on a daily basis He doesn t have to be stuck between his parents and his brother, he doesn t have to lie to his parents about where he s going, he just enjoys the few hours he has, simply to be.When Michael meets Gabriel, he finally feels seen for the first time, by someone who is interested in him, not in using him to get to James Michael is lost in the flush of first love, despite the fact that he can t really spend time with Gabriel except at The Echo once a week, despite the fact he can t tell his parents why he s happy And thehis feelings and his desire for Gabriel intensify, thehis fears about AIDS start to consume him How does anyone know who s safe Is it safer never to be with anyone than to put yourself at risk, even if it is all you want We Are Lost and Found really struck a chord for me While I was a little bit younger than these characters in the early 1980s, Dunbar really captured that period of time so perfectly Coming of age and struggling with my sexuality in the midst of anxieties about AIDS was immensely difficult The fears of how your parents would react to your telling the truth about your sexuality coupled with wanting to be loved or even just liked and the general upheaval of being a teenager was difficult enough, let alone wondering if being with a person could lead to a death sentence.Dunbar is a fantastic writer I fell in love with these characters and was really rooting for them, and hoped the book didn t take a severely maudlin turn The book is told in vignettesthan chapters, and Dunbar doesn t use quotation marks to denote dialogue at least in the advance version I read , but neither of those things bothered me in the slightest I honestly could have done withof the book because I was sad when it ended it probably didn t help that I read the entire thing in one day.Maybe some of those who lived through those days will remember things differently, but as someone who was close in age to the characters at the time the book took place, We Are Lost and Found was pitch perfect A beautiful book so well told, one that I won t soon forget.NetGalley and SOURCEBOOKS Fire provided me an advance copy of this book in exchange for an unbiased review Thanks for making it available This book will be published September 3, 2019.See all of my reviews at itseithersadnessoreuphoria.blogspot.com.Check out my list of the best books I read in 2018 at You can follow me on Instagram at


  2. says:

    This was so exceptionally beautiful and haunting And I am justI read half of it in one sitting and then just made myself stop so I could absorb the emotions plus I didn t want it to be over so fast It definitely gave me Perks of Being a Wallflower vibes, but it was still unique and it s own whole self It s so deeply about anxiety and being lost to it, but also about healing And those are the kind of books that just make my heart swell.yes pls wreck me, dear books, but also leave me w This was so exceptionally beautiful and haunting And I am justI read half of it in one sitting and then just made myself stop so I could absorb the emotions plus I didn t want it to be over so fast It definitely gave me Perks of Being a Wallflower vibes, but it was still unique and it s own whole self It s so deeply about anxiety and being lost to it, but also about healing And those are the kind of books that just make my heart swell.yes pls wreck me, dear books, but also leave me with shards of hope to hold onto it s set in the 80s when the AIDS crisis was beginningTechnically the crisis was in full swing, but without internet access like we have today it wasn t that easy just to KNOW what was happening You mostly had to hear it from people and read the papers etc And I literally just saw someone posting on twitter this newspaper article clipping from the 90s talking about eugenics for gay people being a possible hope so Excuse me while I vomit But also we know papers also oppress minorities Mostly, we have this story of queer teens who are scared.that is so the crux of this story too fear The unknown Wanting and straining towards something, wanting your whole life to stretch before you so you can own it but being afraid of a disease no one knows much about I felt the book captured it hauntingly and really made me feel the ache on every page.I also want to say this never felt like queer pain porn Never There is pain and the messiness of falling in love secretly because you re queer and your parents would throw you out if they knew, and wanting to have sex but being terrified of AIDS, and knowing people are dying And it was all so heartfelt and respectfully done I also SO appreciated the afterwards from the queer activists I don t know much about this time period tbh, and just hearing people speak about it with 1st hand accounts was amazing and so important charactersOk here is where I always fall in love with books Characters are my 1, my heart, and constantly the book s soul So pls meet my new loves Michale, James and Becky with shout outs to Connor and Gabriel too Michael He narrates and he was just ajfldsad everything I love that moment when you connect with what a character feels, with their fears and dreams, so reading Michael was so special to me He s gay and super closeted but he doesn t want to be His parents threw his older brother Connor out when he announced loudly in public that he was gay And ok it doesn t look like abuse But he s literally cowed into silence, to fear, so he can stay home He s 16 I ached for him and his voice is so raw and real.James he s such a theatre kid and dramatic and pretentious and dresses wildly and I LOVED HIM He s also super gay and his anxiety over AIDS honestly has driven him into such deep fear Like, you just want to immediately fite anyone who gives James a hard time He and Michael are super close, maybe Michael has a little crush on him, but their dynamics are this deep entwined friendship and I really love books that say how valuable friendship is.Becky they out right say it, Becky is their heart She s simultaneously sweet and no nonsense and she massively looks out for Michael and James, as well as has her own problems and life and ambitious I loved them all together, how easily they fit Like super tight friendship squads are my heaaaart.And also Michael s older brother Connor had one of the best arcs And then there s Gabriel, Michael s crush he meets at a club Idk how he managed to be so sweet in just a few sentences but there we go I seriously wanted to knowabout him though the writingSo it is formatted differently and I think it s good to be aware of that It s done in vignettes, no chapters, and there are no quotation marks At first I was oh the no quotation marks are gonna kill me But then I loved it It just flowed so seamlessly and the style really clicked for me I like to appreciate the different ways books tell their stories.Also this style so reminded me of The Wicker King, aka the book of my heart and I will never be over So WALaF is another one To add to the list of book writing styles I am obsessed with this is the kind of story that reads raw and bleeding with heartache and hope and I couldn t love it The vivid NY setting, the styles, the music, the timelessness of kids just wanting to understand themselves and love and make their lives mean something despite anxiety it was beautifully captured It made me want to CRY Several times Ahhh It meant a lot to me, both personally with some of the feels and just also solidly as an incredibly good read.______At home, my guitar is silent Talk to me, I beg Talk to me.When I complain to James, he says, That s how you know you re an artist, Michael the muse takes you as her fickle lover.I don t sit around thinking about the fact that I m attracted to boys, because then I start thinking about all the things I want and don t know how to get.And I don t talk about the fact that I m attracted to boys because I don t see the point, given that I obviously don t have a boyfriend or anything, and the only reason I have somewhere to live is because, having heard nothing to the contrary, my parents assume I m straight.Besides, Connor has done enough talking for both of us.It s a song that craves to be sung, a chord bent out of shape My feelings for James are just oneof the things I ve learned to stay silent about.I could even be myself, if I ever figure out who that is.It s true, you know, James says after a while It s the things that we are missing that keep us searching for a reason to stay alive


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    3.5 1980s gay teen angst with a bit too much stars Thank you to Netgalley, Sourcebooks and the author for a copy of this book In exchange I am providing my review This book is to be released September 2019 I pushed this up my reading list to make it my Pride read of 2019 There is a lot to like in Ms Dunbar s novel of three teen best friends living their lives in 1983 New York The time and place felt very genuine with many cultural and musical icons, the club scene, fighting over the h 3.5 1980s gay teen angst with a bit too much stars Thank you to Netgalley, Sourcebooks and the author for a copy of this book In exchange I am providing my review This book is to be released September 2019 I pushed this up my reading list to make it my Pride read of 2019 There is a lot to like in Ms Dunbar s novel of three teen best friends living their lives in 1983 New York The time and place felt very genuine with many cultural and musical icons, the club scene, fighting over the home telephone, the fashions and the social attitudes toward the LGBT community.Ms Dunbar was able to get across the burgeoning AIDS crisis and the lack of support in researching and treating this most horrible virus The author also knows how to write about young love whether it be between homosexual or heterosexual couples There is too much here though Packed into one year so many events occur and often this reads like.this happened and then this happened and then this happened to the detriment of character development and emotional processing of what is occurring in their lives The teens also had muchwisdom than is possible for those tender ages I also must admit that the last third of the book was a bit much and becamelike an NBC after school special with parental guidance warnings Happy Pride everyone


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    3 5 stars e ARC received from NetGalley after reading we are lost and found, i m going to say that this book was just ok for me in overall it was neither good nor bad but there were some things about this book that bothered me so much and i wanna tell you about them.first is the lack of quotation marks i found it quite hard to read sometimes because i did not know whether someone was saying or not second is the plot i feel like it was not interesting enough to keep my attention and t 3 5 stars e ARC received from NetGalley after reading we are lost and found, i m going to say that this book was just ok for me in overall it was neither good nor bad but there were some things about this book that bothered me so much and i wanna tell you about them.first is the lack of quotation marks i found it quite hard to read sometimes because i did not know whether someone was saying or not second is the plot i feel like it was not interesting enough to keep my attention and third is the writing style i don t want to say this but tbh, skipping from scene to scene is kinda annoying for me btw, one thing that i like about this book is the friendship between michael, becky and james it was so precious Thanks to NetGalley and Sourcebooks Fire for providing this e ARC to me in exchange for an honest review


  5. says:

    first of all, read Like a Love Story instead which is also a ya book set during the aids crisis in new york centering a gay teen, only it s written by a gay author who actually lived itnow this is a pretty well written book, even if the lack of quotation marks in dialogues is annoying extremely pretentious.but this story is not one that should have been told by a straight woman it does some things that are questionable at best 1 framing not coming out to your highly homophob first of all, read Like a Love Story instead which is also a ya book set during the aids crisis in new york centering a gay teen, only it s written by a gay author who actually lived itnow this is a pretty well written book, even if the lack of quotation marks in dialogues is annoying extremely pretentious.but this story is not one that should have been told by a straight woman it does some things that are questionable at best 1 framing not coming out to your highly homophobic father as hiding and 2 pretty much slut shaming guysi m not going to comment on the fact that the mc is 16 and both his best friend the li are two years older than him since at least they re all teenagers, but still, this was a choice the author decided she had to makerep gay mcs


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    This book was everything I wanted andI cannot wait until everyone else gets to read and love it as well I ll have a full review going up closer to the release date As for now, I ll be posting some thoughts over on my Instagram UPDATED My Rating stars 5 out of stars 5 5 I was kindly sent a physical copy of this book by Source Books Fire in exchange for a review Thank you, Source Books Any opinion is my own.This review is SPOILER FREE TW homophobia unaccepting parents W This book was everything I wanted andI cannot wait until everyone else gets to read and love it as well I ll have a full review going up closer to the release date As for now, I ll be posting some thoughts over on my Instagram UPDATED My Rating stars 5 out of stars 5 5 I was kindly sent a physical copy of this book by Source Books Fire in exchange for a review Thank you, Source Books Any opinion is my own.This review is SPOILER FREE TW homophobia unaccepting parents We Are Lost and Found is one of the rare books that I found the day it was posted to Edelweiss and emailed the publisher immediately It had everything that I love in the description it was compared to Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky, it s a coming of age story, it s set in the 80s and it follows LGBT teens during the AIDs epidemic Not to mention, the cover is stunning.Coming of age is one of my favorite genres for so many different reasons but I love how real the stories feel even if it s fiction There s so much character development and personality throughout these types of stories We Are Lost and Found was no different As the reader, you follow Michael and his two best friends as they grow up in the middle of New York during the 1980s Michael goes to this club often that s called the Echo, where he finds himself always dancing and forgetting He s always hanging out with either Jamie the performer and artist or he s with Becky, an strong female character who s going through a lot at home.Helene Dunbar was able to write such an interesting and fully developed cast of characters in about 300 pages I loved all of them Michael, Jamie and Becky They each had their own backstories and were nowhere near being flat side characters They also felt incredibly realistic I find that sometimes, in YA specifically, friend groups just seem so unrealistic and have me thinking these people would NEVER be friends in real life but this set of characters makes perfect sense Jamie and Becky are never toxic and are so supportive They re the most unproblematic side characters ever and I ADORE them.Not only are the friendships in this book fantastic, but family is such a huge theme in this book Michael s relationship with his parents and his brother plays a big part in this book His brother is such a great character and I feel as if I relate to both of them A lot of the times in YA books, families are often nowhere to be seen or also just incredibly unrealistic It was a joy to see his family play a part in this book, even if it wasn t exactly for the best reason I really enjoyed seeing Michael s relationship with his brother Seeing them grow and have a healthier relationship near the end of this book is so rewarding and refreshing On the other hand, Michael has a tough relationship with his parents and he never knows where he stands with them after knowing what they did to his brother He feels trapped and it s so hard to read but it s so well done I think a lot of readers, especially LGBT and closeted readers, will appreciate this.Since this was the first ever book I ve read by Helene Dunbar, I had no idea what to expect in terms of her writing style I opened this book and quickly realized, There s no quotations marks I had been buddy reading this with Amber and I texted her about it immediately because to be completely honest, I think this might be one of the first non classic books I ve read with no quotation marks I love dialogue and I m not going to lie, I find myself skimming pages and just reading dialogue Since this had no quotation marks, I obviously couldn t do that This story is written in beautiful vignettes and yes, there s no quotation marks but DAMN, is it wonderful I quickly fell in love her way of writing I ended up marking up my review copy with pencil everywhere I underlined anything I found funny or lyrical I have so many quotes that I adored from this book and can t wait to like them all on Goodreads Let me share some little quotes I underlined please note that this is from an unfinished copy and that some of these quotes may be taken out, edited, or completely changed Happy And that s the odd thing Not being happy, but realizing it Because how often, when you re happy, do you have the chance to step back and notice Becky says to stay away That sometimes wanting is better than having Whatever that means In this scene, he s talking about playing guitar Somehow, everything I play sounds like the same thing longing It s like I left some important part of myself at Pride, and I don t know how to get it back Also, if you re wondering why she wrote her book this way, this is a great interview Now to talk about a significant part of this book, We Are Lost and Found is set during the 80s and the AIDs epidemic I m usually hesitant when it comes to books set during real life events that are as heavy and difficult to talk about like the AIDs epidemic Let me just say this This is such a well researched YA novel set during this time Since I got to read this book so early, I ve been able to talk to Helene Dunbar herself and she s truly so passionate about this subject and the book itself I strongly suggest you read both the Afterword and Acknowledgements when finishing this book Also, read the interview I linked above I m ashamed to say I didn t know much about the AIDs epidemic besides the fact that it certainly did happen This book exposes the most difficult and uneasy events that took place during the epidemic There s a few scenes in this book that I marked because they were truly excellent and captured the experience of a young, LGBT boy in the 80s One of the scenes is near the beginning of the book when Michael is reading the newspaper and reading the statistics and result of AIDs Throughout the entire book, Michael is so utterly scared of AIDs whether it be him somehow obtaining it or his friends and brother Another heartbreaking scene that captures the pure fear of the AIDs epidemic is when another side character ends up getting AIDs and his family doesn t even visit him even though he s dying because they re scared they ll get sick These are such poignant scenes but they truly set the reader up for an eye opening read.I m planning to readbooks about the AIDs epidemic since this one I loved it eventhan I thought I would The writing was absolutely beautiful Helene Dunbar wrote a book on such a complex topic and did it while being both poetic and light hearted at the same time Don t get me wrong this book is a heavy read but it s well worth it There s so much depth within this book that I didn t quite expect but I really enjoyed it.On arandom note, I think this would make the perfect book club book I really love reading this along with Amber It gives you so much to talk about and makes for incredibly interesting conversations As a reader, you also learn so much about the AIDs epidemic from the point of view of an LGBT teen Truly remarkable I can t wait for this book to be released I pre ordered it right when I finished so all of you can read it and hopefully love it as much as me The description of this book seems quite accurate I think this book has all of the things Perks of Being a Wallflower has so if you are a fan of that book, don t hesitate to pick this one up You might love it as much as I did.Find We Are Lost Found at your local bookstore It comes out September 3rd, 2019.Findof my reviews on my blog


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    This year you will create music You will fall in love You will find your place You will be happy I don t hate this but I definitely don t love it either There was potential here to be one of the best LGBTQ Contemporary Novels of 2019 But that was all thrown out the window by poor characterization, pretty much no plot, and truly a whack ending.Even though I did enjoy many aspects of this book, I think the good and the bad are on equal levels and I just couldn t love it as I had hoped ReviThis year you will create music You will fall in love You will find your place You will be happy I don t hate this but I definitely don t love it either There was potential here to be one of the best LGBTQ Contemporary Novels of 2019 But that was all thrown out the window by poor characterization, pretty much no plot, and truly a whack ending.Even though I did enjoy many aspects of this book, I think the good and the bad are on equal levels and I just couldn t love it as I had hoped Review to come, very soon.


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    Apart from The Handmaid s Tale by Margeret Atwood, this might be the most important novel that I had read thus far this year As the synopsis had stated, the story is set in the 1980s, where societal attitudes toward homosexuality were not pleasant and the threat of AIDs was discommoding to the gay community as no one understood what was going on and how this disease was supposed to be prevented This novel allows us to witness the struggles of the people back in the 80s which I will converse Apart from The Handmaid s Tale by Margeret Atwood, this might be the most important novel that I had read thus far this year As the synopsis had stated, the story is set in the 1980s, where societal attitudes toward homosexuality were not pleasant and the threat of AIDs was discommoding to the gay community as no one understood what was going on and how this disease was supposed to be prevented This novel allows us to witness the struggles of the people back in the 80s which I will converseon in the atmospheric section of this review But it s like going back to your old elementary school to visit your teachers and finding the water fountains too low to reach Maybe The Echo hasn t changed, but I have This novel follows Michael, a closeted gay whose father had recently banned his brother from coming home as he had come out to his parents for being gay His plan was to lay low and not make irrational decisions in fear of being kicked out of the house like his brother by his father His father, who was verbally abusive, tormented him with abhorrent terms day and night and the only way he could forget all of these for a little while was attending a club christened The Echo where he danced it all out and dissipated himself in the flow As the story progresses, the imminent threat of AIDs becameapparent and everybody in the gay community was afraid that they might catch the disease if they were to have sexual intercourse This affected our main character on several levels as he was afraid for his best friend, James and his brother s lives Oh, Michael, seriously What do you think they said That it was random Wrong place, wrong time That sort of thing But even if they d caught someone, you know how these things play out They ll claim I made a pass as them, that they simply couldn t help but protect themselves from the onslaught of my passions As if The ambience around this novel was gripping, upsetting and agitating Upsetting because of how the protagonist and his brother were treated at home Gripping because of how the threat of AIDs was exterminating people and that there was not an excavated prevention to AIDs as they do not understand what it was back in the 80s Agitating because of how society treated people who were gay back then and it tugged at my heartstrings to read about it James hesitated because he knows I hate inviting myself to places The feeling that I might be intruding Similar to the writing style of The Handmaid s Tale , the writing style of this novel lacked quotation marks To be honest, I do not like this kind of writing style as it does not correlate with me and I would also be confused half of the time by the lack of quotations A sample to how lack of quotations in writing style goes in my brain Is the character conversing Is he having an internal monologue Is he exhibiting his emotions or is he saying his feeling out loud What Oh, he is conversing with James Other than the paucity of quotations, I thought the writing style was well rounded and polished in a debonair manner Moreover, I could not stop excerpting the book as the whole book was so quotable For example Her answer feels wrong Limited Like, there have to bethan two options Rules My father s rules Don t make noise Don t draw the wrong kind of attention to yourself Don t stand up for anything you believe in Don t show any emotion that isn t anger Don t be yourself Books Cassettes Tiny origami shapes dragons and roses and stars My father sneers at these gifts when I don t get to them first GOOSEBUMPS, am I right An element in the book which I did not particularly enjoy was the incessant repetition of our protagonist going to The Echo to dance It took several homogeneous scenes of our protagonist rollicking in The Echo for something to finally transpire I thought if those scenes could be shortened down and the plot was to be impelled forward without those verbose displays, this would absolutely be an irreproachable book exclude the quotation marks In conclusion, I am furnishing this novel with a B 75% I thought it was an important novel that should be read by everyone as it would give you an insight into the 80s and how people were treated back then with the emerging fulminations of AIDs Blog Instagram Twitter Goodreads


  9. says:

    is this YA Rent


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    3 READ THIS REVIEW ON MY BLOG provided from the publisher in exchange for an honest review thank you Sourcebooks Fire I don t know how to balance my feelings for We Are Lost and Found over its objective importance and relevance because of the subject it encompasses, so I m just gonna go somewhere in the middle with my rating here my opinion is obviously relative and completely subjective so I wouldn t take it to heart if I were you I ll just rip the ban 3 READ THIS REVIEW ON MY BLOG provided from the publisher in exchange for an honest review thank you Sourcebooks Fire I don t know how to balance my feelings for We Are Lost and Found over its objective importance and relevance because of the subject it encompasses, so I m just gonna go somewhere in the middle with my rating here my opinion is obviously relative and completely subjective so I wouldn t take it to heart if I were you I ll just rip the bandaid off I wish this book hadn t been written the way it s been written the reality of the AIDS crisis is represented stunningly, but Helene Dunbar s choice of writing this book in spatters and vignettes, and following it up by excluding quotation marks altogether I don t know it made the characters distant, impersonal and scattered I couldn t connect with Michael s voice at all no matter how badly I wanted to because I literally couldn t tell when he was narrating and when someone else was speaking, and to be honest it was just a weird choice it didn t help the story flow it didn t add anything to the prose so why exclude such an intrinsic part of the narrative and why write it in such a choppy and disjointed way in the first place it broke any existing relationship between the characters and the reader, or at least that s what it felt like to me still, We Are Lost and Found is beautiful in its preservation of LGBT history, and I respect that I love how well researched this book is and I love the end notes from people who actually experienced the AIDS epidemic firsthand there s unfortunately something about the writing in We Are Lost and Found that doesn t make Michael s experience quite as tangible and impactful as these particular end notes, but I ll bite this is still a gorgeous book, and it s staggeringly breathtaking in the message it gets across I just really, genuinely wish it hadn t been written the way it s been written thanks again to Sourcebooks Fire for a free copy of We Are Lost and Found

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